Support in Labour

It doesn’t have to be just a Dad’s role to support you when you’re in labour. In fact in some cases he may be far from the best person to offer support. It’s a highly emotional and sensitive time for both Mum and Dad, and so it’s important that the feelings of both of you are considered. Research has shown that a good birth partner can reduce a woman’s need for painkillers by reducing the fear factor, and often also results in fewer interventions.

What sort of support will you need from a birth partner?

• flexibility – they should accept that you may change your mind, and will need to go with the flow
• know what to expect – it’s probably not going to be quick and not necessarily going to be easy either
• know their own limitations – experiences of their own or others may be different to what is happening for you
• ask questions – if the midwife or doctor hasn’t explained what is happening or why, ask again for clear explanations until you fully understand – be empowered.
• encouragement – a regular “well done” or “you’re doing great” will mean such a lot to you.

What kind of person will give the best support?

The best birth partner is likely to be someone who:

• wants to be there
• you want to be there with you
• knows what you want
• will stand up for you
• will empathise with you
• knows what to expect
• can look after themselves and not need attention.

So who else could be a good birth partner?

• your own mother
• a sister
• a good friend
• an older child
• you could consider paying for a trained childbirth companion (doula).

The decision whether the baby is to be born at home or in a hospital or birthing unit may have a bearing on your choice of birth partner. Even in hospital more than one person is often welcomed into the labour room to support a mother.

And remember - a second birth partner will also give the father valuable emotional and physical support too!